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Writing: Involve your family and friends!


Wait, wait, wait.

Rewind, backtrack.

“Involve your family and friends?”

Don’t be ashamed; I’m pretty sure that’s about what happened when you read the title. After all, who wouldn’t react that way? Involving friends and family in your writing? That time when you lock yourself away from the outside world in a dark room with only yourself and your muse? Preposterous!

Hear me out.

Even little critters like her help when you least expect it.

I know the feeling. Trust me, I do. I’m about as likely to walk up to my parents and ask them to give me their opinion on what I wrote as the next person. That’s where a lot of writers go wrong. You don’t need to let your family and friends read what you wrote, for them to be involved in the creative process.

Just take a step back and think about it. As writers, we write about other people, but these people often have careers we don’t know much about, or do things that we haven’t. Now, what if you know someone in your circle of friends, or in your family, who does have experience in that job?


It’s as simple as going to them for advice; getting them to tell you a bit about what they do, or what they did. When your grandparents or parents tell you about things that happened way back when, or things they did, the best thing any writer can do is listen.

Listen. Take notes. Remember.

You never know when what they told you may come in handy in one of your stories.

As writers, we like to think we know everything there is to know. It’s a fact. We’re writers, we’re creators, we make things happen. There comes a time when writers realizes that they don’t know as much as they think they do – that we don’t know as much as we think we do.

Take me for example: I’m nineteen. Go back two decades and I don’t know much about what was going on. We can study all we want, but gaps will always exist. Family and friends help fill those gaps with their knowledge.

As an artist, as a writer, family and friends are a necessity. They help in ways we often don’t realize until it’s too late – or never realize at all. Family and friends are more important than we know, so let them help in ways you aren’t sure they’ll be able to.

You’ll be surprised – both at their willingness, and their ability to help.

How do your friends and family help you?

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Author: Natasha McNeely

I'm a writer, reader, gamer and a dreamer. I love losing myself to thought and considering possibilities. That is how I create my stories and weave the erratic tales into readable ones.

2 thoughts on “Writing: Involve your family and friends!

  1. Honestly, this is a great way to find free Q&A sessions with people. If I ever wanted to learn about engineering, I’d as my cousin’s husband. If I wanted to learn about teaching and coaching, I’d ask my cousin. Or about cutting down trees, I’d ask my uncle. That’s a pretty diverse range of occupations.

    Of course I never even thought they might be helpful to me until I read this post, so thanks for that. =D

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