Natasha McNeely's Author Blog

Never stop dreaming, 'cause the day you stop dreaming, is the day you stop living.

The Journey: Dealing With Rejection



Image via Wikipedia

Rejections are a part of any writer’s career – I’ll be one of the first to agree with that. Any writer, editor, agent or publisher will tell you of it. It’s publishing 101 – you will receive rejections at some point of your career.

I guess I’m one of the lucky ones, depending on how you look at it. The first short story I submitted ended up in an anthology; no rejections involved. Lucky? Yes. Unlucky? Probably.

Anyone who knows me well enough, knows that I easily take a step back from my writing and disconnect. I accept constructive criticism well and work to improve the stories I write. This brings me to the point of this post.

This morning, I received my first rejection e-mail. A greeting and thanks for submitting, a polite, “While we enjoyed reading it, we are going to pass on it for publication.” and well-wishes for submitting it to other places.

Okay. It’s not hitting print. I can deal with that.

That was my attitude throughout the morning. Then little things started piling up and it made me miserable. The rejection, stuff at college and little things along the way.

Maybe I shouldn’t have checked my e-mail before getting out of bed.

Perhaps it was an omen of the day?

While the rejection itself doesn’t bother me – no, I am not just saying that – it, combined with this other things, just piled up into a heap of blah. Now, I don’t know how to get out of it.

I don’t want to spend my day like this – it’s already 5:30 pm.

Do I need to talk about the other things that happened to some friends? Probably, but it’s more. I need something to cheer me up. I browsed around for other publishers or magazines looking for submissions, to potentially resubmit this story to. No luck so far. I’ll try again. What do I have to lose?

Tomorrow, I’m getting back into writing my novel. The more I can get done, the better. I’ll just bounce back from this day of blah – really, the rejection was the happiest poor thing that happened – and spend time doing what I do best.


Has one of your stories/poems ever been rejected? If so, how did it make you feel and what did you do?

Author: Natasha McNeely

I'm a writer, reader, gamer and a dreamer. I love losing myself to thought and considering possibilities. That is how I create my stories and weave the erratic tales into readable ones.

11 thoughts on “The Journey: Dealing With Rejection

  1. I really enjoyed reading your post. Well done!

  2. Brilliant post! Not that your rejection is brilliant, far from it, but I really felt your turmoil of emotions, the way it’s nothing and everything pulling your thoughts all over….yet still making total sense.

    Enjoy your writing tomorrow, you never know, today’s ‘difficulties’ may just make tomorrow’s writing fantastic.

  3. I did! And just did, actually 😦 I sent a short story to the national newspaper, and after more than 3 months, I already felt rejected. Then after about–I don’t know–around 5 months later, they finally sent me an email to tell me that they thanked me for trusting them my short story, but they didn’t think it worth-published (or something like that). I wasn’t such a big blow already, I guess, since I already assumed that it was rejected even before I got the email, still, it felt pretty sucks, indeed. I usually did the same thing you did: try to get another publisher to publish it, or write a new one and try sending it again! 🙂 Good luck with your stories! Hope I could read it someday!

    • I’m sorry to hear that! I think that, after a three month long wait, I’d assume it had been rejected, too.
      Let’s just keep bouncing back and continuing what we do best!
      The prologue of my novel is on my blog, if you’re interested. Under Projects -> Tales of The Forbidden -> Prologue.

  4. Pingback: Win Some, Lose Some « Nila E. White

  5. I had one big rejection in my early days of writing, and that was just thrilling! Seriously. I looked on my form rejection with much glee; it was a symbol that I was a real writer. I had gotten to the point of receiving rejections from publishing houses! It was awesome.

    I know I’m really not a normal person in that regard, and that reaction is pretty much the opposite of what everyone else feels. Rejection is still capable of being disappointing, but I do pretty well dealing with it. Just remember, the struggles of rejection are nothing compared to how much you have already worked to make your story and polish it until it shines. This is just a bump in the road. You will overcome and find new successes in the future. 😀


  6. In my playwriting days, I wrote the best piece of work I could. I was convinced that, this time I would do it. The play was rejected, and I hit the roof. I decided, there and then, I would write novels from now on. Thinking about my reaction now, I realize that I was wrong. You have to keep doing what you love, and hope that someobody out there gets it (and that that person is willing to pay you for it).

Leave a Reply to Natasha McNeely Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s